The Love's Post Birthday Weekend Celebrations Thoughts...

Last weekend was spent over a very dilapidated chalet for BabyLove's birthday celebrations... Shopping with him for the birthday BBQ necessities wasn't as bad as I had thought - BabyLove was surprisingly not that irritated or frustrated as I thought he would be.. :) Maybe it has got to do with the fact that he's getting older... *LauGhs*


Predictably, he got drunk on the 1st night of the weekend itself... To see him puking and all was a lil' worrying, as I knew how bad the hangover would be come the next day. I didn't get alot of rest since the beds were all taken up by his bunch of friends, I only managed to catch some shut-eye for only about 1 hour... Darn the hard liquors! (I tend to have a immune system against hard liquor + beer...) I woke up to the fresh post-rain scent in the air in a very uncomfy position in a very uncomfy chair, with a knee that seemed to hurt a lil' more than usual throughout the night... I just wished that somehow, his friends could have been a wee bit more considerate, I mean, I can't complain since I was the one that fell, and I can't fault anyone but myself for getting stitched up... But, I just wished that they had left the Love a decent place to at least get some rest... Poor BabyLove had to settle himself on the cold hard floor and had a terrible throbbing headache from the drinks and the lack of proper rest the next day... I just wished that his friends were more understanding, but I guess that most beings, in general, are self-protective by nature and I alone, cannot change the world... *Jaded smile*




I was the busybee, rushing back home (Since it's a 3 bus stop's ride away from my place) while everyone else was busy getting a tan in the pool, doing up the curry for the birthday barbeque and getting the pasta done... Had to pick up the cake and macarons as well and I had no idea how I managed to pull it together with less than 1 hour's worth of sleep + a limping knee... Hahs! Thank Gawd that Mummy was around to hep me out! :)



The sudden rain midway through the festivities dampened the mood, or at least mine... Seeing BabyLove's friend spilling the box of macarons made me real pissed off, and I was honestly at my tipping point, but I just had to do the PR thingy and smile... I just wished his friends would be less nonchalant about stuff, but then again, it wasn't his birthday... ... I guess I'd not volunteer nor lift a finger unless they ask should there be another celebration for one of the friends...



I just wished and hoped that BabyLove enjoyed himself... It wasn't as great as I had imagined it to be, coupled with the sudden heavy downpour, but I hope he was happy...



With that being said, I was somewhat disappointed over his reaction over his birthday present. Truth to be told, I had wanted to get him a decent-looking briefcase since he has been looking for one. I had been doing the research, rushing out during days when I finally can leave work earlier to look at some briefcases, and limping out on days when I was supposedly to be resting at home to source for a nice-looking briefcase... I was disappointed when he said that I shouldn't had spent so much, and he assumed that I had wanted to buy something so costly as a measurement/value of him to me...



Truth to be told, I wasn't planning on sticking to a budget for BabyLove as my ex partner of 3 years had always made sure he stuck to his $100 birthday gift budget for me, which was always depressing; for all I got birthday and Christmas presents that were shitty/crappy, (with the exception of the MP3 player that I had demanded during one of the Christmas...) and I always had to look on in envy at my friend's presents from their significant others... I still remember how he had told me proudly that he had not exceeded his $100 budget into buying me a stainless steel necklace for my birthday, and how he even managed to haggle a 10% discount for the present... Imagine! I was only worthy of a stainless steel necklace, nothing more than those cutlery one would use for their dinners... *Shakes Head* I don't even wanna get started on the other ex partner that gave me a pack of lies and my all-time fave "IT" bag that turned out to be nothing more than a fake like him... *Shakes Head again*



I just didn't want anyone, especially the Love to feel disappointed to feel that he is measured by a number/budget of a certain kind... All I wanted was for him to have a memorable birthday...



I never have budgets for presents for the significant people in my life that matters, it's always a case of quality over quantity... I naturally didn't want that for the Love, and since his current briefcase was somewhat in a bad state of things, I spent on getting him something more durable and in my opinion, what he wanted in terms of design and I thought he would get alot more mileage from receiving something he would be using on an alomost daily basis than to get something that he would place in a forgotten corner a few months down the road...



To get mocked at by his friend over this weekend over drinks was a little too much to handle... At that very moment, I questioned myself if I am doing the correct thing by getting a present which I thought he would really appreciate... I guess the problem is that I don't feel that he appreciates the effort, which I am tad disappointed about... =I



What would you have done had you been in my shoes?


Do you have a budget for a gift for someone of special significance to you?


Is getting a pricey gift as a birthday present for that Special Someone, in your own opinion, measured by how long a couple has been together, or by a budget? Or would all of these issues not be considering factors for you?





*tHinKs*